Am i pretending to be gay

Question is there any one at your HS classmates that can attest to you being gay. And by that I mean, have actually caught you or seen you making out or doing anything sexual with another guy? I think it will start making people think back and then slowly question your claim that you are a gay man. For decades, I've been a relentless supporter of LGBTQ people , marching in parades, donating to LGBTQ nonprofits, and supporting family and friends. But recently, when I started telling an anecdote from my past to some of those same friends, I realized I had a lot left to learn about being an ally. At 51 — after decades of being immersed in LGBTQ communities — I had to face my prejudices.

For adults who have lived most of their life seeming to be straight, coming out and claiming their LGBTQ+ identity can bring about imposter syndrome – feelings of self-doubt or being a fraud, or like they’re undeserving of identifying as part of the LGBTQ+ community. First of all, happy Pride! Maybe it's because I don't know the struggles of being closeted. By the time I even started thinking about my sexuality, I had a big group of queer friends and have never had homophobic parents.

In my 20s, I pretended to be gay and deceived a saleswoman to get a discount on an expensive couch. I recently told my friends that anecdote, and my LGBTQ friends took offense. Even. About two years ago I switched to cocaine because I could work the next day. Jeremy is telling me this from a hospital bed, six stories above Seattle. Jeremy is not the friend I was expecting to have this conversation with.

It all started with the combination of a lot of people thinking that I was and the random "you're gay" insults. I realized that if anyone ever confronted me and called me gay I could easily just admit it and they would feel awful. First of all…. WHOAHHHH GUYS!! I AM LEGAL NOW!!!